WHY A BREAKUP CAN BE GOOD FOR A RELATIONSHIP

Okay, before you go all hysterical on this article please read thoroughly. According to new research, almost 50 percent of couples break up, and then get back together again. Yeah, that's a little messy, but there are upsides to splitting up before settling down for the long haul, Here's why:

A Clean Slate

After a breakup, you don't owe your ex anything and you certainly don't have to get back together. But, if you choose to try again, you both know that your hearts are really in the right place. And that's a great foundation from which to build a new relationship.

Your Relationship Will Be More Real

The first time around, you and your guy were likely trying to show each other only your best selves, but this level of politeness tends to go out the window during a breakup. So, if you decide to reconcile with your guy, it will be after you've seen him at his worst and you've shown him your true colors, too.

You'll Be Better Together

Because you've probably rehashed your relationship's demise with each other many times, ideally you and your guy will be prepared for whatever issues broke you up in the first place. Having a plan of action about how you're going to handle problems might make your relationship even stronger.

Your Relationship Will Have a Clear Direction

Sometimes, a breakup can be the healthy shake up that will take your relationship to the next level. Getting back together can also mean getting on the same page about where your relationship is headed, and may up the odds that you guys can last the second time around.

You'll Value Each Other More

After experiencing what it felt like to be apart, you'll learn to value your union in a new way and be more appreciative of the time you spend together.

You're More Committed

Maybe you weren't ready to be tied down when you first dated, or he sucked at commitment. Being apart can show you both how important you are to each other and make you realize you really want to be committed this time around.

You'll Be More In Touch With Your Needs

It sounds cheesy, but after a breakup, you focus more on your needs and what you require to be happy. That's a huge plus, since women often put their priorities aside in relationships. This time around, you'll have a better idea of what you want…and the crap you won't put up with.

Now this article here doesn't apply in every case please note that those ones that cheated and has done terrible things to you shouldn't be judged with these criteria. Abusive relationships shouldn't be tolerated. Let's make Love not war. Hope your saturday is going great!!! 

SEX POSITION OF THE WEEK

*Now Playing Adorn by Miguel*


Yes my luvvies that's right!!! hehehehehehe okay now I wanted to do this everyday but.....(insert terrible excuse here). Well this is for those who are tired and want to break free from the spirit of missionary position * hallelujah somebody* I'll give you a weird sexual position to try out. If you succeed you have to come and share with us *wink* remember its going to be a rare position but I'll explain it to you so sit back and read/evaluate.
So, the name of the sex position of the week is..........

The Erotic Accordion

Erotic Instructions:

Your lover lies on his back and lifts his knees toward his chest. Facing him, you squat down and straddle his legs so your thighs are hugging his. Lower yourself onto his penis — the closer he draws his knees to his chest, the better access you'll have to his main accessory. Bend at your knees and move yourself up and down.

Now in case you do not understand the explanation here's an illustration for you:

Why You'll Love It

This position is the ultimate rev-your-engines role reversal: He's curled up on his back; you've mounted him like a Harley bike. The switcharoo will kick-start your sense of power and allow him to show his more submissive side. And since you're facing each other, you both get a prime panorama of each other's ecstatic expressions. Plus, the shallow penetration concentrates pleasure on the supersensitive outer banks of your vagina and the nerve-rich head of his hot tamale.

HINT: Before you start, agree to keep your eyes open and your gazes locked. Since you're directly facing each other, you and your guy will both get a prime panorama of each other's ecstatic expressions. Those red-hot glances will instantly arouse his most base desires.

There you have it. You could try it and give us a feed back or you could keep getting bored all day everyday. Motto for today's post "Just do it" lol

IS HE A ONE MINUTE MAN? WELL LETS SOLVE THAT SHALL WE?

"now playing One Minute Man by Missy Elliot"

10 Ways to Make Bad Sex Better

Sometimes bad sex happens to good people. Never fear: There are solutions to those sexual frustrations you have been having , "You have the power to shift things up if you're not enjoying sex."

The Minute Man

You're ready for a marathon, but he's done too soon. Try saying, "I am so turned on, can we do some more stuff for me?" Carrying a lipstick vibrator in your bag doesn't hurt, either. hehehehe *wink*

The Bad Oral Sexer

To be really honest 50 percent of Nigerian guys don't even think this is necessary in bed smh and 70 percent don't know how to do it real good, they stay licking it like its a hot pot, but my ladies there is still a way to get it good. He's giving you oral, but it's not turning you on? While he's down on you, gently lift or turn his head a little, and show him how you want to be touched with your own fingers. 

The Oral Avoider

He never goes down-town, but you're dying for some pleasure. "Always start with what you do like," i'll say. "Try, 'I really liked what we did last night, but how would you feel about oral?'" Face it no matter what you feel ladies love this and when you cant give it its kinda depressing.

The One Trick Pony

Well this will hurt some people but nonetheless, its true. Missionary. Every. Single. Time? Pick up a sex game or watch an erotic video together. Even if you end up laughing about it, it can still be titillating. Drop that missionary and get tumbling together. Hit it from the back, side, upside down sef dey.

The "Me" Man

Seems like his only bedroom goal is his orgasm? Give him the benefit of the doubt. "Sometimes guys are just uneducated, as opposed to selfish,". Let foreplay linger to make sure you're good and ready. hahaha I know what you are thinking, valid point. I hit the nail right on the head right? Well communication is the key.

The Jackhammer

He's pumping away, and it doesn't feel good at all. "A lot of women grin and bear it, which can be painful and cause tears,". Try putting your hand on his chest or hips to slow him down to the rhythm you want. Or say, "How about I get on top?"

The Wet Noodle

Bored by how your guy's lying there, touching you so gently you can barely feel it? Be vocal. Whisper, "harder," or "deeper." And you can always take his hand and physically show him how you want to be touched. You have to talk ohh My Ladies tell him what exactly you want, many of them already feel like superman because you haven't been entirely honest to enjoy love making.

The Crappy Kisser

Whether his lips are too wet or too dry, you've got a bad kisser on your hands. Be the change you want to see in your makeout session: Initiate softer, or harder kisses, and tell him how you like it. Face it we are plagued with this problem a lot, some want to pour saliva all over you, some want to bite you some want to lick your face (this is the funniest of them all LOL) oh and don't get me started on French Kiss. we aint got none of that all we have is Alausa Kiss, Ijebu Kiss, Badagry Kiss e.t.c So please inform your Man, Husband, Lover or even aristo sef how you want to be kissed.

The Boob Man

He's so focused on grabbing your breasts, he's forgetting you exist above the nipple? If you're straddling him, you're in a perfect position to take his hands in yours, touch your own boobs, and show him how you really want to be caressed. Like your boobs are running away tcheeww tell him to calm down and watch you do it the way you want it.

The Head Pusher

Your man is not-so-subtly pushing your head down south in hopes of scoring a blow job, but you're not feeling it? Gently take their hand off your head, and sweetly say, "I don't think I'm up for it tonight, but why don't we try a different position? Detest is an appropriate word for this stop forcing her to go down on you, she will do it when she's ready.

Now you have some exciting tips to turn that bad sex into good sex, not just good but amazing sex hehehehe. my motto for this write up is "If its not that good then something is missing, find it and fix it" its your girl Miss Orgasm to the Orgasm-less Enjoy. Feel free to drop your comments, suggestions and findings. 

CAN WOMEN AND MEN BE JUST FRIENDS?

Yesterday this question popped up when I was with a couple of my male friends (so I think). They kept hollering and shouting that its not possible, I had to ask them about our friendship which they couldn't even define or agree. So that automatically means I have a bunch of strangers I call my male friends(so sad). Then I also asked them about women in their lives and if its all the same. One made a shocking statement like this;

"You are my friend but I wont think twice given the opportunity to sleep with you"

I really want to understand the philosophy behind this, so, if you can explain the floor is open feel free to comment.

OFFICE ROMANCE: Do Office Romance Ever Work Out?

Dating someone from work is such a double-edged sword.

On one hand, it's natural to meet someone at the office: You automatically have things in common and feelings both good and bad are bound to develop when you spend so much time together in close spaces.

On the other hand, it can get super messy when one side breaks it off or when your romance becomes the subject of office gossip.

And yes, plenty of us have dated someone at the office: 4 percent of workers polled in a recent survey admitted dating someone from the office at least once. Surprisingly, certain industries seem to inspire more intra-office relationship for example Hospitality, Information Technology, Finance, Healthcare and professional services.


Amazingly, 30 percent of those involved in office romances end up getting married to their co-worker, so to answer your question YES IT CAN WORK OUT.

Sadly, my at-work relationship didn't end up quite so happy.True story. I once dabbled in a little office affair when I was working in a bank, Lawd have mercy it was exciting. those little getaways to that abandoned floor LMAO *pls dont judge me* and all those kisses when we are alone in the elevator. But sadly we dint work out in the end, sole problem was me :(.


The relationship was fine I just couldn't stand being the favourite gossip topic whenever I stepped foot in the office.

So yeah, that experience turned me off from dipping into the office dating pool again.

Not that I haven't thought about it..... multiple times.

Tell Us: Have you dated someone at the office? How did that work out?
Pls leave your comments ;)

7 THINGS TO DO TO A NAKED MAN

How do you turn him on? Oh, let us count the ways. Consider this your must - do list of sex tips to tease, squeeze, and totally please your guy!

Sneak Up Behind Him






Blow his mind with this sneaky move: Stand behind him and stroke his penis. This positions your palm flat against his member's sensitive underside, the same way he grips it when he masturbates. Then do a few things he can't do himself, like whisper in his ear or kiss his back.

 

Get Naked Too




There's a good chance that your guy has never feasted his eyes on your completely bare bod for more than a few seconds. Maybe it's because you undress quickly in a passion frenzy or your bodies are too close for him to really take you in. But letting him stare at you in the buff is a sure fire libido trigger.

Let Him Be an Animal

Initiate a primal move that fuels his frisky craving. Give him an animalistic challenge by having standing sex. Let him hold you up against the wall with your legs wrapped around his lower back. He'll be in the aggressor role since he's holding you up with his arms and lower bod, and he also gets the visual thrill of watching your breasts bounce during the act.

Break Out the Blindfold

Once you have him going crazy not knowing where your next lick, kiss, or stroke will land, treat your blindfolded boy to a slew of new sensations. Three to try: the feel of your hair, silk panties, or a string of pearls rubbed gently against his member.

Climb on Top

The majority of the dudes we polled in our most recent sex survey picked woman-on-top as their number-one nooky style. Bonus: This position can be very intimate since your faces are touching and you can slide your arms around each other so you're superclose. It's also a great method for delaying his orgasm a little longer.

 

Take a Sensual Shower

Steam up your bathroom mirror by standing this close together in the shower. Add the water pouring over you, and this is a perfect position for lots of wet, passionate kissing. You can also gaze into each other's eyes, further boosting the intimacy factor.

Find His G-Spot

A guy's prostate — the walnut-size gland under his bladder — is the ultimate magic button to push if you want to blow his mind in bed. To tantalize it, partway through oral sex or intercourse, rest two fingers against the swath of skin between his testicles and anus.

Hope you all use this as a guideline in pleasing your man dem. Try and be creative after all those iPhone 5 and things during the Valentine try and hold him down. As always Miss Orgasm to the Orgasm-less for the man and woman dem.

20 - CRAZY HOT SEX MOVES

With these Hot, Sexy and Tantalizing moves make your Sex Life an abyss of raw pleasure. LOL as tantalizers used to write at a point "Have You Tantalized Him/Her lately" You can pick a few and try it out, don't forget to give us a feedback ;) Here They are:



1. During foreplay, wrap your fingers around his penis and lightly press against your labia. Rub yourself up and down it to get you both hot and to prolong the anticipation.

2. Intensify his orgasm by placing two fingers an inch behind his balls and feeling for a dent (the perineum, a big pleasure trigger). For the last 30 seconds before he comes, massage the spot in a circular motion.
3. Tie two or three knots in a nylon stocking, and gently wrap it (don’t tie it) around the base of his penis so it’s snug but still has some give. The compression makes him even more sensitive, and the knots stimulate your clitoris as you move in girl-on-top.
4. Put a small mirror out to the side, parallel to his body, while you’re going down on him — he’ll have an eye-popping view.

5. To make his orgasm explosive, gently squeeze the base of his penis for five seconds before he comes, then release.

6. Close your eyes and masturbate in front of him. It’s a turn-on because he’ll feel like the only viewer of a private porn show.

7. Text your man racy one-word messages that, when strung together, hint at what you want him to do to you that night

8. Make a playlist of sultry songs, and set it to shuffle during sex. Change up your pace and mood to match each new tune. P.S NO TERRY G I TAKE GOD BEG U.

9. Buy a small, bullet-shaped vibrator that has a remote operation. Hold it over your clitoris, and hand him the controls. 

10. While your man is hard, use one hand to push his penis up toward his stomach. Lick the underside of his shaft by keeping your tongue flat and moving your head from side to side to cover more surface area.

11. While he’s giving you oral sex, tell him to insert a finger in your vagina and stroke your G-spot with a come-hither motion.

12. Get it on outdoors in a sleeping bag in your backyard. The cozy space makes missionary position even more intimate. Well with PHCN on steady decline this should be viable.
13. For increased sensation for both of you, apply a warming lube designed for sex to his penis right before he enters you. Take note of the 'warming lube DESIGNED FOR SEX' aint nobody got time for Vaseline please don't use that too.

14. Straddle your guy, then lean forward and rest your upper body on his torso. Bring one leg out to the side, and bend it so that the inside of your leg is against the bed. Then straighten the other leg, and slide it in between his legs. You’ll be better able to rock your clitoral area against his pelvis.

15. As your man goes down on you, ask him to draw figure eights with his tongue over your clitoris so he hits every angle. Woosh!! This right here sounds quite amazing and u have to agree with that.

16. Challenge yourselves to have sex every day for a month. More frequent encounters rev your libido, culminating in a big domin-O effect with each session. Well ladies u could try this. 

17. Before sex, take a hot shower together and rub each other’s bodies with salt scrub or plain ol' Irish Spring if you don't have the salt scrub. The steam and rubbing action will stimulate the nerve endings and blood flow.

18. Sit on the sofa with your legs spread, feet on the ground, and your hips slightly off the edge. Have your man kneel in front of you and enter you, then use your legs and arms to slide yourself up and down on him.

19.While on top, straddle your guy and clench your legs so his arms and torso are pinned down. As he keeps still, roll your hips in a clockwise direction. Switch to counter-clockwise, then back, every 30 seconds

20. Play porn star by bringing a camcorder into bed to view yourselves. But don’t record the action — just seeing each other through the lens is a huge turn-on. (I shall not be responsible for any sex tapes flying around please be guided when pulling this stunt) LOL


EXTRA TIP
21. Kiss and lick your way down his torso, stopping short of his penis, then give him a smile and work your way back up. Repeat several times until he begs for mercy

That's all folks, remember this is for couples who want to spice things up, and remember sex is meant to be enjoyed. NIGERIAN LADIES YOU ARE NOT A STATUE, DON'T JUST LIE THERE DO SOMETHING.


Its you super woman a.k.a Miss Orgasm to the Orgasm less, Sex to the Sex-less.

culled from Cosmopolitan Magazine

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